我不否认我的为人会有点冲动，甚至没有通过大脑深思熟虑而钻牛角尖，带来不必要的麻烦。结果，就麻烦了一位仁兄。
这位仁兄今年年仅28岁，至于他相识大概4个月。虽然隔开大约400公里，但他也给我不少指点，人也很亲切。我似乎有了个哥哥。嘴上虽说要求帮忙，但是其实换个角度来看是他替我做事。我觉得不好受。我不可以这样，怎么可以叫人替我做事呢？怎么可以叫别人替我做一件事，到最后成就由我来领取？感觉上很自私。自己的东西得自己去处理，但是我却因为匆忙向达到目标而去麻烦别人了。
不管，我今天得写个电邮给他向他道歉。我不再做这种事情了。我给该电邮写了这最后一句：“我们依然还是朋友吗？”
过了大约1小时，他回复了。吓！他竟然没谴责我。这到底是怎么一回事呢？
“我俩都是往同一个方向行走，为同样长远的目标奋斗。我帮你，并没有对我任何损失。只要帮到你成功，也是我的个人成就，因为我帮你达到顶峰。别忘了，你在整个过程中也有付出努力。成就仍属于我俩，无分谁或谁应领取该成绩。请勿因为这一点小事而感到错愕，也别想太多了。别再有这种消极的想法了，因为消极的想法并无助于达到成功顶峰的努力……”
康闻兄，谢谢你……
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I do not deny the fact that I'm a bit impulsive, to the extent of getting myself into unnecessary problems without thinking in-depth. In the end, I caused a problem to a 'brother' of mine.
He's only 28, and we only known each other for about 4 months. Despite being away from each other of about 400 km, he still gave me a lot of tips and guidance in the spirit of friendship. It felt like I had an elder brother. Though it may sound like asking help from him, but in a way, it can be seen as asking him to do it for me. I felt very uncomfortable after that. How can I be actually so selfish to ask someone to do something for me, only for me to reap its produce in the end? I felt really disgusted at myself. I should have handled it myself, but because of my anxiety to reach my goal, I have 'dragged' him down.
I couldn't care less any more, I must write him an e-mail to seek for his apology. I will not do this again. I ended the e-mail with the sentence, "Are we still friends?"
After about an hour, he replied. His reply surprised me in a way that he actually didn't reprimand me. Just what is going on?
"We are both walking in the same direction, fighting for the same goal. The fact that I help you doesn't make me lose anything. As long as I help you to succeed, it is also an achievement of mine. It's a win-win situation. Do not forget that you also played a crucial role in the process. Success belongs to everyone of us, there's no distinguishing between who does it belong to. Please do not feel guilty over this small matter and don't think too much. Do not have any negative thoughts anymore, as they hamper your efforts to the top......"
Thank you, 'Brother' Owen ......
这位仁兄今年年仅28岁，至于他相识大概4个月。虽然隔开大约400公里，但他也给我不少指点，人也很亲切。我似乎有了个哥哥。嘴上虽说要求帮忙，但是其实换个角度来看是他替我做事。我觉得不好受。我不可以这样，怎么可以叫人替我做事呢？怎么可以叫别人替我做一件事，到最后成就由我来领取？感觉上很自私。自己的东西得自己去处理，但是我却因为匆忙向达到目标而去麻烦别人了。
不管，我今天得写个电邮给他向他道歉。我不再做这种事情了。我给该电邮写了这最后一句：“我们依然还是朋友吗？”
过了大约1小时，他回复了。吓！他竟然没谴责我。这到底是怎么一回事呢？
“我俩都是往同一个方向行走，为同样长远的目标奋斗。我帮你，并没有对我任何损失。只要帮到你成功，也是我的个人成就，因为我帮你达到顶峰。别忘了，你在整个过程中也有付出努力。成就仍属于我俩，无分谁或谁应领取该成绩。请勿因为这一点小事而感到错愕，也别想太多了。别再有这种消极的想法了，因为消极的想法并无助于达到成功顶峰的努力……”
康闻兄，谢谢你……
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I do not deny the fact that I'm a bit impulsive, to the extent of getting myself into unnecessary problems without thinking in-depth. In the end, I caused a problem to a 'brother' of mine.
He's only 28, and we only known each other for about 4 months. Despite being away from each other of about 400 km, he still gave me a lot of tips and guidance in the spirit of friendship. It felt like I had an elder brother. Though it may sound like asking help from him, but in a way, it can be seen as asking him to do it for me. I felt very uncomfortable after that. How can I be actually so selfish to ask someone to do something for me, only for me to reap its produce in the end? I felt really disgusted at myself. I should have handled it myself, but because of my anxiety to reach my goal, I have 'dragged' him down.
I couldn't care less any more, I must write him an e-mail to seek for his apology. I will not do this again. I ended the e-mail with the sentence, "Are we still friends?"
After about an hour, he replied. His reply surprised me in a way that he actually didn't reprimand me. Just what is going on?
"We are both walking in the same direction, fighting for the same goal. The fact that I help you doesn't make me lose anything. As long as I help you to succeed, it is also an achievement of mine. It's a win-win situation. Do not forget that you also played a crucial role in the process. Success belongs to everyone of us, there's no distinguishing between who does it belong to. Please do not feel guilty over this small matter and don't think too much. Do not have any negative thoughts anymore, as they hamper your efforts to the top......"
Thank you, 'Brother' Owen ......
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Ahh...that's really great Weijie...
Have a great mood now, I hope so dear...
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